Being driven is an excellent quality, but it is crucial to recognize that everyone is different. Some people are driven from birth, while others take years to develop it as a skill.
Drive at times seems to be fleeting; we might feel motivated one day and lazy the next.
If you believe that something is possible, that may be enough to give you the motivation to put in the effort to make it happen.
For some people, we may need a bit of a push, but ultimately we need to believe we have the power of choice if we want to accomplish anything worthwhile or essential.
Being driven will not ensure the life of your dreams, but it will help you get closer to what you want.
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Drive is based on your perceptions of how the world works.
There have been times in the past when I felt that life was outside my control. But there have also been times when it felt like I was choosing my future and writing it.
Ultimately it comes down to what you believe. Driven people are sure they have control over the future, so they accept their efforts are worth putting towards what they believe in.
How we fit into the system doesn’t matter; what matters is that we believe we are in control.
People who aren’t driven tend to think that the world is happening around them. And they may believe they are a cog in the machine rather than active participants.
We can never really know how the world works, so we can never know if our efforts are making a difference, but that doesn’t matter. Instead, what matters, is what we do, which is always based on what we believe.
What we believe is what we get.
Driven people believe that they are in control.
As we can’t know how much control we have, it is really up to us to decide how much power we want to assert on the world around us.
It may seem strange; we are trained to believe the facts and look at reality. But the truth is that we create our reality, and if we focus on not having control, we will lose more and more power.
But on the other hand, if we believe that we are in control and can have whatever we want, then that is more likely to happen.
Life can be unfair, and we can feel like we have no control, but that isn’t the case, as we are the captains of our souls.
The more we learn about the world, the more it seems like we are cogs in a machine without any power to change. While this seems true, it doesn’t do us any good to believe it.
Instead, if we believe that we are in control, then we have the power to change our lives for the better. This is ultimately the difference between people who are driven and those who are not.
Feeling powerless makes us powerless.
The reality we get is within our control.
I’m almost forty years old, and things seem to be going decently well for my family and me; I couldn’t say my dreams have yet come true, but what exactly do I want?
And while the world can seem unfair at times, it probably is, but that doesn’t mean it is entirely unjust or we can’t get what we want.
Put another way; we can only ask for what we know is an option. So sometimes, we don’t get what would be best for us as we don’t know what is best for us.
We can’t snap our fingers and win the lottery, but we can envision a future, figure out the steps and work towards it.
What we want is within our reach, but we need to believe that we have the power to change, and then we need to be willing to work towards it.
People with lots of drive believe that reality is within their control, so they plan and work at the things that will bring them what they want.
What about when we don’t get what we want?
We never get exactly what we want, sometimes we have to compromise, and sometimes we have to realize that what we want isn’t realistic, and we need to adjust what we are striving towards.
If you want to be a billionaire, you probably don’t have much chance unless you are already a hundred millionaire.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t live the life you want; instead, you need to be more precise about what you want. Do you want to chill on the beach all day? Well, you don’t need to be a billionaire to do that; if you had all that money, you’d likely never be able to relax.
You can’t pick all the details, but you have the power to create the life you want.
With the right amount of drive, you can be willing to put in the effort it takes to get what you want. Put another way, getting what you want is often a matter of being reasonable and then putting in the required effort.
The truth is that most people are lazy; they don’t want to put in any more effort than they have to, so they get stuck and don’t do anything to improve their lives.
You might not get everything you want, but you may need to adjust your expectations a little. But know that you will always be unhappy if you are unwilling to change.
The amount of change you will see is up to you.
As I mentioned before, if you are unwilling to change, you can’t expect to see changes in your life. You shouldn’t expect different results if you keep doing the same things.
We usually do something out of the ordinary to experience something new or see something different. Put another way, if we keep insisting on things being the same, they will never change.
Some people are alright with changing what they eat for lunch; others are ok with the idea of moving to another country. Regardless, it would be best if you pushed against the constraints of what you are willing to change.
If you refuse to do things differently, then you have no chance of change.
Ultimately, to change your life, you need to be open to change and be willing to push for it. If you say you’d like things to change but don’t take any action, that is on you.
Driven people have a clear vision of what they want but are also willing to go with the flow, adjust to the situation, and adapt as opportunities provide themselves.
It would be best if you were willing to change; otherwise, you will stay stuck forever.
But what about having too much drive?
Is it possible to have too much drive? Indeed, too much of anything will probably have adverse side effects.
Put differently, if you are so driven that you forget about everything else, the rest of your life might fall apart. But then the question becomes, what are you driven about? Or what are you pushed towards?
If your life goal is to have a happy family, you need to put your efforts towards that, but if your goal is to have lots of money, you will probably neglect your family.
Too much drive will lead to compromises in other places. Are you ok with being lonely?
It depends on what you want out of life. If you are ok with lots of money or a successful business but have no friends or family, then you don’t have much to lose.
However, if you realize too late that you want those things, you might have missed your chance. Realize that every choice has a consequence, and be prepared for the future that all your choices lead to.
Be driven but use it wisely.
If you are ok with the life you have, then you don’t have any need for more motivation or effort. However, if you want to change your life, you must be willing to work.
Being driven means that you can create the world you want, but you also need to be willing to compromise and live without other things.
Make your choices wisely because everything has a consequence, and every path has an alternative.
You can be as driven as you want, but realize that everything comes at a cost, and while you might like the hustle today, you may not be happy about it in 10 years.
Regardless, as your life is up to you, make sure you make the best choices for yourself, and know that you never really know what you are missing out on.
Are you a driven person? What are you doing to make your dreams become a reality? What are you willing to compromise on, and what are you unwilling to change?